Well, well, well. I just found this in my Drafts folder – been there since 2016. Looks like it didn’t get published. Dunno why. If I say so myself it was a cracking post. So here it is. Volume 1 of the Lost Posts. (Well, the only one really, but it sounded good…)
Dateline – Australia. We are currently sitting on the edge of our seats to see if a fundamentally decent person who is our Prime Minister will roll over at the baying of his far right party members as they bluster about complaining about a programme in schools. “Oh my God, there is a highly successful anti-bullying school programme that is targeted towards tolerance of gay and lesbian and transgender type people and for the sake of almighty Jesus we do not want our children to embrace, let alone be tolerant of, these people. They may convert into them. Hellfire and damnation be upon thee!”
My response? Shut the fuck up.
I do remember a kid at my school in the 1970’s that was thought to be gay. Man did he cop some shit. Teased. Mocked. Hassled. I didn’t get involved in it, but then again I didn’t actively step in and completely stop it either, so there is a degree of complicitness (if that word exists) there. I did tell a couple of my friends to leave him alone. I wasn’t this kid’s friend as such but I kinda knew a bit of what he was copping. I was a sickly child and was very fragile emotionally. A sook, a cry baby, a whiner, a baby. They were some of the tags I copped for a while. But when I flogged the living shit out of one guy who pushed me too far one day I got a lot of less of that. I could defend myself when pushed and did get a bit of a rep as being occasionally volcanic. Best left alone in that case. I’m sure the shitheads who gave me grief found another unwilling target. Well, wouldn’t it be good if all kids had the intellectual toolkit to know how to react when you run across someone who is a bit different to you? To not be afraid of them. To not mock them. That those people can make a valuable contribution. Can be your friend. Can be your teammate. Can help you with your homework, assignments or just learn another way to look at life. I’ve had gay friends. They are just people. A little different maybe. But they don’t try and hurt me. They don’t try and change me. I accept them as they are and they accept me, with all my weirdness and personal oddities, as I am.
Well, if kids are armed with the knowledge from this programme that has been delivered at some schools for quite some time now, then maybe they will grow into more tolerant adults. With greater proclivity for developing friendships and alliances with people they haven’t known since pre-school. Will perhaps even be comfortable around people of other cultures, faiths, skin colours. Maybe even accept other members of their own species as their brothers and sisters. Like they really are.
Intermission: one day I was waiting for my wife in the local credit union and my daughter was with me. She was about 2 or 3. There was a small kids play area with some blocks there. An Aboriginal man walked in with his partner and young son. His partner queued up to do her banking and his son went into the same play area with my daughter. Now I doubt my daughter had ever clapped eyes on a child of such dark skin colour before. Didn’t bother her at all. She turned around when she heard the little gate open behind her to see the little boy there. He hesitated so she handed him some blocks. They cooperated and built a tower and took it in turns to belt it down with their arms before building it again. And when it was time to go the little boy gave her a hug and we left. His father smiled at me when my daughter handed his son the blocks and I said to him when we were leaving “I reckon we could all learn a bit from these two”. He agreed. We shook hands and I left. Moral of story: Kids know this stuff already. They have no discrimination. No fears. We teach them that crap. We are responsible. We should fix it.
Now, the title of this post is the right are wrong. And they are.